Conflict is unavoidable in our life. On the one hand, it can help us accomplish great things. On the other hand, it can be destructive and erode relationships.
In every waking hour, we are bombarded by people and events that force a reaction from us. How do we decide daily if a conflict is useful or counterproductive? Usually, we have to make a judgment call in a split second. Do we engage or back off?
Next time, ask yourself the following question: Do I want to invest the time necessary to make a positive difference in this situation?
How does merely asking ourselves a question help? It keeps us in control. We are reacting consciously instead of emotionally. As a result, we free ourselves from anything we can't influence and focus on making a difference in what matters to us.
Whenever we are responding to others, we are investing time and energy. As our resources are finite, we have to consider if this conflict in front of us is really the best use of our precious time.
The question mentions a "positive difference". Why? Because making a situation worth through our reaction doesn't help anyone. We should always strive to create a better world and a better us.