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Jan 13, 2019 17:57:42

Hardness, Tenderness

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Basile Samel

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“One has to grow hard but without ever losing tenderness.”

I grew up with this quote from Che Guevara written on the wall next to my bed in the family house.

I remember writing it as a teenager learning about politics and trying to act cool and contrarian. I didn't quite grasp it at the time. I'm still trying to figure it out.

The quote stuck with me for some reason, and a few days ago, it hit me that this is the perfect illustration of what a great leader is all about.

A leader doesn't seek a following or to be a leader. A leader is an individual who left the cave to experience the sun and be blinded by its intensity. Facing this cold hard reality head-on is growing hard.

When you grow hard, it's tempting to choose the easy path and grow bitter or to feel superior as well. To tell you the truth, it's one of my dark patterns. I can quickly get arrogant and dismiss others. This is something I'm working on.

The solution is to stay tender. In Buddhist terms, I would say "to cultivate compassion".

For a person to become his own leader, it is important to balance self-development with compassion.

Practicing mindfulness. Simple living. Aiming for what truly matters. Alignment between actions and values.

The opportunities are many.

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    @basilesamel wooow...
    im so happy that i opened this post! Its an amazing quote, thank you for sharing.
    All your posts which i read were very much down to earth, down to code almost, intellectual, very eloquent (must admit often intimidating for me).
    I love to read them, to be able to get to know another, but... they were from a different part of Universe than the one i most often inhabit (apart from the moments when Philippe tells me how decentralised governance can benefit form block chain contracts, or when i read one of his books about (the doom we await because of) AI.)
    And here BUM! Post about tenderness... in leadership... so cool!
    I have this fantasy (based a little bit on observing a few amazing people i met) that when one grows hard but without ever losing tenderness, then, with time, he doesn't need the hardness any more, as the tenderness gives all the support one needs. Yet, I think there is a lot of "growing" on the way.

    Lucjah avatar Lucjah | Jan 17, 2019 19:13:14
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      @lucjah That's the cool thing about writing. To be able to live many different lives by reading the thoughts of others.

      Haha I think @philh should definitely write about decentralized governance!!! :D

      Yes, I guess at some point you can give up on the hardness. I don't really want to lose it though. When you grow too soft you stop evolving, yet I don't think this is what life is about. Life should be more about change. It must be because I'm still young enough to love change.

      Basile Samel avatar Basile Samel | Jan 18, 2019 02:39:41
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    @basilesamel Well said, sir!

    Brandon Wilson avatar Brandon Wilson | Jan 13, 2019 17:37:32
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      @brandonwilson thanks Brandon :)

      Basile Samel avatar Basile Samel | Jan 14, 2019 19:41:28
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