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Jun 19, 2019 20:27:18

How mindfulness thwarts ego

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Jason Leow

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@keni asked an interesting question the other day, about how to better keep the ego in check. I said mindfulness and meditation. I'm no expert as I'm still a student of mindfulness. But here's what I learned so far: 

To me, sitting meditation is one of the many practices of mindfulness. It's a more formal practice, often associated with rituals, incense and sitting on a cushion to the sound of a bell. I don't do that. I just sit, but it's still considered more 'formal'. More informal practices of mindfulness include when you are walking, eating, working, etc. 

But all of these are practices in witnessing the mind, to widen the gap between thought and response. The longer I practice mindfulness, the more well practised I get with watching myself, my thoughts, my actions. In past, my thoughts triggered responses immediately, like a knee jerk. But slowly, the gap between thought and response widens, with more practice. On good days, when I have an egoistic thought to act, but thanks to the gap, I didn't respond. But most days, I fail. The mind wasn't as alert and mindful, and I gave in to previously ingrained thought-responses patterns. And I do have a healthy ego for sure! But the good days give me hope. I don't hope to entirely extinguish the ego's voice in my head, but I think I can learn to stop responding more often than not...some day. If not in this life, perhaps the next...

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    @jasonleow - Thank you for this.
    This description is it....
    "to widen the gap between thought and response"

    I want to widen the gap at most times but there are instances where I feel the need to make this gap smaller... I have been told to speak up, say NO, etc... Like everything - it is a balance I guess. Knowing when to widen the gap and when to speak up.

    Keni avatar Keni | Jun 19, 2019 12:45:32
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      @keni oh yes. Widening the gap works both ways, to have space to be aware if you need not act (on egoistic thoughts), or to have awareness during that gap to act (speak up). Because when you need to speak up but don't, you might be following past thought-responses patterns and conditioning. The gap allows you to be aware that you need to act. :)

      Jason Leow avatar Jason Leow | Jun 20, 2019 20:46:56
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