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Feb 04, 2019 23:20:22

Is venting valuable?

by @haideralmosawi PATRON | 297 words | 153🔥 | 339💌

Haider Al-Mosawi

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There are a few people in my life who feel the need to vent. When they feel bad, others need to know about it. It's not done with the intention of sharing experiences and finding solutions, but to simply release their anger or frustration.

I'm of the opinion that it's important to change our thought patterns so that we're able to see life's challenges and difficulties in a way that leaves us calm and in control. This is one of the reasons why I love Stoic philosophy: it teaches the power of perception and how the mind shapes experiences. Our feelings are based on our interpretation of what happens to us, not what actually happens to us.

That's why I feel like venting isn't as effective as many make it out to be.

It's important that we give ourselves space to express our thoughts and feelings without judging ourselves or feel that we're being judged. That's extremely important.

But to simply let out our frustrations without addressing the underlying thought patterns that fuel them only means that the cycle of frustration -> venting will continue.

It is also emotionally draining for those who get to experience other people's "venting episodes": you want to give loved ones the space to deal with their emotions, but venting is not the best way to do it and it's often hard to contribute in a positive way to someone who simply wants to vent. Mirroring their frustrations as an act of support can lead to their negative emotions rubbing off on you when you didn't have those emotions to begin with!

What are your thoughts on venting, and how can we work with negative emotions in a way that helps us experience them less and without negatively impacting those around us?

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