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Jan 06, 2019 17:12:25

On praise

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Victoria Maung

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Praise makes me uncomfortable. Whenever I do receive it, I try to quickly say my thanks, then deflect or change the topic.

It used to be so that I tried to deny the praise I would receive, but that would lead to an endless cycle of getting the praise thrown back at me.

Maybe it's an artist problem, where the creator is the biggest critique of their own work. But I am trying to figure out a way to receive praise more humbly.

The problem is not necessarily that I'm insecure about my work, I don't think, but more so that I am sensitive to empty praise. I tend to be skeptical about whether or not someone is lauding praise with intention or pity. 

On the other hand, it's easier to receive praise when it's about something specific, then followed up with constructive criticism. I do want more people to do so with me, but how do I invite that? 

Perhaps I need to be of a personality that responds well to criticism. I tend to verbally rationalize the choices I make or be overly polite, so maybe that deters others from giving me more candid criqitues. I'll try to be more like a friend I have in front of whom everyone feels like they can speak their mind freely. 

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    @vickenstein I feel the same. I don't know why it makes me feel so awkward but I just can't help it

    Keenen Charles avatar Keenen Charles | Jan 06, 2019 18:09:01
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      @keenencharles It's comforting to know that I'm not the only one who feels this way. Let me know if you ever figure out a solution.

      Victoria Maung avatar Victoria Maung | Jan 07, 2019 23:06:05
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    @vickenstein This was written for me!!! :D I don't know why I'm so uncomfortable when people praise me. I think it's mainly because I tend to be a perfectionist, so when I receive praise I don't really believe in it. Oddly I'm more comfortable with negative critics because what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

    Basile Samel avatar Basile Samel | Jan 06, 2019 17:27:45
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      @basilesamel Wiser words have never been spoken by kelly clarkson, lol! Maybe this is why the idea of professional relationships are easier for me--I'd rather have someone tell me what they want because they're paying me for it--rather than receiving possibly empty graciousness (even if it's just me that thinks that way).

      Victoria Maung avatar Victoria Maung | Jan 07, 2019 23:10:03
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