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Apr 20, 2019 12:35:38


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Keenen Charles

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"My regrets look just like texts I shouldn't send" - Mac Miller, Come Back To Earth

I've been thinking about this line and how common these sorts of regrets are. These are some of the easiest regrets to avoid. Those texts we shouldn't send are usually because they contain too much truth. A truth that means so much to us, the wrong reaction would hurt to see. It's not just texts, but anything we're too afraid to say.

I believe part of living a happy life is to minimise regrets. Time only flows in a single direction. Once you do something you regret (or fail to do something and regret it) there's no going back. To minimise regrets you have to be aware of these potential moments when making a decision. Will I regret not doing this? Will I regret doing it? Which will I regret more?

It's tough to decide.

For me, I try to look at the potential consequences and how severe they might be. Will it be detrimental to my future? Will it only hurt my ego temporarily?

A lot of our hesitations on decisions are usually due to the potential impact they can have on our egos. Will I feel embarrassed if this doesn't work out how I hope it will? But these fears are mostly superficial. They're excuses your mind makes to convince you to take a safer route. The pain these outcomes can cause is usually temporary and not as bad as you fear.

So maybe those texts we worry are too honest are worth sending. Why regret being honest?

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    @keenencharles I wonder what would happen if we all told the truth 100% of the time? There'd certainly be a lot of bruised ego's - but sooner or later we would all grow a thick skin and get over it. We all hate getting criticized or hearing things we don't wanna hear! Of course, it's all situation dependent, but technically speaking, you should never regret telling the truth, it's probably better for the person hearing it in the long run anyway! What do you reckon?

    Jack Lyons avatar Jack Lyons | Apr 20, 2019 17:43:03
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      @jacklyons that's something I've been thinking a lot about. Overall it seems like we'd all benefit from being more honest but white lies do serve a necessary purpose. Maybe it all depends on how that honesty is delivered and the intent behind it. You can be honest with the intention of hurting someone or just getting something off your chest. So maybe once your intent is good and you can convey that there's no reason to regret it.

      Keenen Charles avatar Keenen Charles | Apr 20, 2019 19:28:53
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      @keenencharles Yeah so true, intent is everything and if people can you are genuine then it definitely would hurt let. I know some people who are good at just being brutally honest and I know a lot of people actually appreciate it. The one thing I hate is when people start their sentences with a different intent but its blatantly obvious what they are trying to say - when you see right through peoples BS that usually hurts the most.

      Jack Lyons avatar Jack Lyons | Apr 21, 2019 11:24:54
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