"My regrets look just like texts I shouldn't send" - Mac Miller, Come Back To Earth
I've been thinking about this line and how common these sorts of regrets are. These are some of the easiest regrets to avoid. Those texts we shouldn't send are usually because they contain too much truth. A truth that means so much to us, the wrong reaction would hurt to see. It's not just texts, but anything we're too afraid to say.
I believe part of living a happy life is to minimise regrets. Time only flows in a single direction. Once you do something you regret (or fail to do something and regret it) there's no going back. To minimise regrets you have to be aware of these potential moments when making a decision. Will I regret not doing this? Will I regret doing it? Which will I regret more?
It's tough to decide.
For me, I try to look at the potential consequences and how severe they might be. Will it be detrimental to my future? Will it only hurt my ego temporarily?
A lot of our hesitations on decisions are usually due to the potential impact they can have on our egos. Will I feel embarrassed if this doesn't work out how I hope it will? But these fears are mostly superficial. They're excuses your mind makes to convince you to take a safer route. The pain these outcomes can cause is usually temporary and not as bad as you fear.
So maybe those texts we worry are too honest are worth sending. Why regret being honest?