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Jun 27, 2019 11:06:04

The urge to preach

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I got a mentor when I first joined toastmasters.

The first piece of advice he gave me was - Please do not preach!
I smiled to myself - I hate speeches where anyone comes of preachy so that advice make sense. 

Despite that - I found myself gravitating towards preaching for my first few speeches. It was harder than I expected. 

Looking at the audience, you can almost hear them pleading...
please do not tell me how to do something. 

And yet - even the most experienced speakers would go up there and say - 
"Meditation is the art of ....
"Happiness is found when....
"The best way to live life is.... 

Everyone seems to have the key to happiness.  

I noticed that even with writing, it is hard for me to not be preachy. 
A lot of us sound like experts based off of what we write than we actually apply in our lives. 

Why is that?
What do we write more about ideas than how we actually are?  

I want to be very aware of how my message sounds...
I do a "Is this too preachy?" check before I publish or speak in public. 

I find storytelling and adding humor helps towards that goal. 

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    @keni _ i did an exercise where I just took @baz's post today and didn't change any of the words. I did, however change the order of the sentences because it seemed to have a different presentation screaming at me. I only spent a few minutes getting it right, but I wonder if something as simple as sequencing could help.

    Brian Ball avatar Brian Ball | Jun 27, 2019 15:33:30
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      @brianball - Lol - I love these experiments of yours. Good point.

      Keni avatar Keni | Jun 28, 2019 12:08:18
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    @keni I think you hit on the idea that it's more the delivery and not necessarily the message. There is also the concept of preaching to the choir, so the audience also plays a role.

    Brandon Wilson avatar Brandon Wilson | Jun 27, 2019 10:30:03
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      @brandonwilson - Yeah - I always wonder how some people actually preach but they just add enough humor and story to make you not feel like you are being talked down to.
      Delivery is everything

      Keni avatar Keni | Jun 28, 2019 12:07:43
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    @keni .. so true .. I hate if someone telling me what to do :) ... I mean as you said .. the storytelling is all right ... and the audience can get inspired or not ... but it's up to them ..

    Efran avatar Efran | Jun 27, 2019 18:52:37
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      @efran - Yup. I think effective communication has to keep all that in mind.

      Keni avatar Keni | Jun 28, 2019 12:06:55
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    @keni "I find storytelling and adding humor helps towards that goal." EXACTLY!
    I've served as a mentor to a lot of entrepreneurs and found that the urge to be helpful often starts with giving advice. The best way to be helpful is to listen first and then cautiously, slowly, care-fully respond with a question asking for clarification. It's hard to resist just jumping in to solve "the problem". I'm not sure how to fit the unrequested prescription I just volunteered (sorry for that) into a Toasmasters speech though.
    - Mike

    Mike Byrnes avatar Mike Byrnes | Jun 27, 2019 11:04:41
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      @mikebyrnes - Very well said Mike! Listening is a SKILL.

      Keni avatar Keni | Jun 28, 2019 12:06:22
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